Bridal Shower Etiquette
Answering your questions about bridal shower etiquette
Who should host it? Traditionally, the maid of honor and bridesmaids host the bridal shower. Strict etiquette frowns upon the bride’s mother or sisters hosting the shower but this rule has become more relaxed in modern times. The hostesses are responsible for the cost of the shower. Guests should never be expected to pay for any part of the shower.
When should the bridal shower be held? Usually one to two months prior to the wedding. Invitations to the shower should be sent about a month before the shower date.
Who should be invited? A shower is usually for the bride’s closest friends and family members as well as her future in-laws. Anyone who is invited to the shower should also be on the wedding guest list. Invitations may be sent to any close friends or relatives who live out of town, even if they likely won’t be able to attend. It’s a thoughtful gesture and will make them feel included in the festivities.
Do I have to open gifts at the bridal shower? Since this is the main reason behind throwing a shower, yes, the bride should open her gifts and thank the gift givers in person. Ask one of your bridesmaids to record the gifts as you open them. If you are concerned about your guests getting bored during gift opening, this is a great time for bridal gift bingo or trivia games!
Are handwritten thank you notes required, even if I thank everyone in person? Yes, the bride should send a handwritten note to each person who gave you a gift. Thank you notes should be sent as soon as possible, but definitely within a few weeks of your shower.
